Tarot: How to stop male manipulation and start inviting real love!
Me being single for a while now has really made me take a different perspective on the dating game. I almost find it funny when I see how men started to play games before we even made a real connection. First I couldn’t understand why, I felt dissapointed and I almost didn’t believe this was happening. So I try and test different things out just to see how real the person in front of me is. I remember that even men that I wasn’t interested in, try to play the game… LOL…. hahahhaha. This shizzzzle is funny and crazy at the same time.
The beauty of tarot and working with oracle cards is that you can see what is beneath the surface. You find out why things are happening. Why he needs to control the situation from the beginning and why a woman falls into this trap.
Crazy because people lose themselves while playing this game. Crazy because love and affection is a basic need of the human species. Crazy because we all want to be happy. Crazy because it could all be so simple if we would deal with ourselves first.
Because of my daily practice, I have heard hundreds of stories of women who let themselves be manipulated by men. The beauty of tarot and working with oracle cards is that you can see what is beneath the surface. You find out why things are happening. Why he needs to control the situation from the beginning and why a woman falls into this trap.
Example 1. One of the reasons he is manipulating is because he doesn’t know what the concept of love is, how to love and what to expect.
One of the reasons he is manipulating is because he doesn’t know what the concept of love is, how to love and what to expect. This can mean that their was no example of healthy loving in his life when he was younger. This can mean that showing emotions was seen as weak. Being a man means you are tough. Not knowing that not outing your feelings has a consequence for your relationships and your (mental) health.
Only by keeping your standards high you can change your situation. That can mean leaving his part-time love and inviting the man who is ready to fully love you.
A man with this profile will often connect with other women so that he can keep the validation he yearns to. So he doesn’t have to give himself fully. Only part-time love is what he can offer. A woman dating this man, who is not aware of this profile. Can over-give herself with the hope she can make him fully love her. Not knowing he is incapable of doing that. Only by keeping your standards high you can change your situation. That can mean leaving his part-time love and inviting the man who is ready to fully love you.
At a certain age, people will not change if they don’t want to change. That is a fact. If he wants you, he will do the work. It is not that he is not seeing you for you, it is that he is still dealing with his own demons. You are just a distraction, to entertain his thought, so he can escape the darkness he feels insight.
When you hurt me, you hurt yourself
Try not to hurt yourself
When you play me, you play yourself
Don’t play yourself
When you lie to me, you lie to yourself
You only lying to yourself (Don’t hurt yourself)
When you love me, you love yourself
Love God herself
The women, in this case, are dying to share their love exclusively and become needy when they are ignored. Instead of dealing with the feeling of neediness to see what this feeling is communicating (to realize it is time for some good ass self-love), they start lowering their standards. A toxic relationship is born. Over-giving, feeling deprived of love and feelings of not good enough are started to blocking their flow.
Both men and women in this example are in need of love, self-love, and intimacy. Unfortunately, instead of dealing they are projecting their needs onto others. Procrastinating the healing process and adding some trash to it.
Example 2. Another reason why men manipulate women is that the men are not done with the relationship with their ex.
Another reason why men manipulate women is that the men are not done with the relationship with their ex. They are not getting the validation they need from her. Instead of working on the emptiness they feel inside, they start approaching other women without the intention of a real connection. They are hungry but are not willing to pay for their food. They see what the flow will bring without putting in any effort because in their mind they are still bounded in another relationship.
Because of the desperateness some of us women show, we put up with this half-ass relationship because we rather are together than alone. But also thinking there is not anything better, or no-one else wants you or no man will treat you right (as if you are not worthy of some sweet sweet loving.)
The funny thing about these dynamics is that it is not about your man not doing you good. These dynamics are about the relationship you have with yourself,
In this example, another unbalanced relationship is born. A signal that it is time to start loving yourself and make sure you write down what you want in a relationship and keep yourself to it. A signal that it is time to check yourself, go and look at yourself in the mirror and start loving yourself. What are my standards? What does it feel to be loved? What does it feel to be wanted?
The funny thing about these dynamics is that it is not about your man not doing you good. These dynamics are about the relationship you have with yourself, what you allow in your life, what you invite in your world, how you let others treat you, what you think you deserve and the responsibility you take about your happiness.
Book a Tarot session with me if you:
- want to know what the dynamic is of your relationship
- when you are ready to fully love yourself
- want to stay unbothered by the actions of others
- want to release the toxic energy out your own system
For now. I have found an amazing youtube video that can help you turn the tables and protect yourself. Protect your energy. Protect your self-worth. Protect you magic. Protect your light.
Your Spiritual Life Coach